How to write: love scenes

The most important sex organ is the brain.

Remember this when you write love scenes.

The attraction between your lovers has to be more than physical. They have to connect at a deep psychological level and your readers have to believe that they're right for each other in every way, not just because they like the way the other looks.

So set up many scenes and confrontations and affectionate wordplays between them before that very first kiss.

You'll have your readers eating out of the palm of your hand.

Having said that, when it comes to the lovemaking, you can let rip. But you need to be honest. How would these particular lovers do it? What is idiosyncratic in their personalities that might affect how they make love? What in their characters might inform what they like to do and what they don't like to do?

And don't neglect other parts of the body when you write your love scenes. After all, good lovers don't. John Updike, a master at this, wrote about the sole of one of his character's feet as he unhurriedly described their appreciation for each other, phsyical and emotional.

In my novel A Hard Man to Love I tried to build up a sizzling tension between Rex and Pansy before letting them even touch.  A Hard Man to Love is free via Amazon from Valentine's Day!